It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such asituation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world. THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…
FYI - Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.
6] Number three is public restrooms.
7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.
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POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would
not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel
little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
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FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….
I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or
purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be
hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.
DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT NOT REBLOGGING THIS! IT COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.
My grandma was tied up by Ted Bundy (She got away) so please please be aware.
These area great tips!! I've been through new hire programs that talk about how to pick up on signs of possible danger and they make a good presentation for the new hires. We all need to take this very serious, women or men! Thanks for reminding us!!! Stay safe
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ReplyDeleteGood tips!!! Also a Concealed pistol license is a great option. If you choose to carry please get some training. You may just save others besides yourself.
ReplyDeleteGreat article! Thanks for posting!
ReplyDeleteGreat article! Thanks for posting!
ReplyDeleteOff the top it sounds like good advice, but unfortunately it is too general and does not hold true with police and US Dept of Justice statistics. There are many more variables to a rape than these cookie-cutter personalities of a rapist. you will find better, and more realistic, advice here: http://www.snopes.com/crime/prevent/rape.asp
ReplyDeleteExcuse me, but these are fine tips! The fact that this information was obtained from predators speaks volumes! Calling them "cookie cutter" does a disservice to the author and denigrates the life saving advice. These will be helpful for anyone who finds themselves in such horrific circumstances.
DeletePlease be mindful of your audience - for some, this may be the only self preservation advice they've ever seen.
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Unfortunately nothing! I think all advice is helpful and it gets people thinking on how to protect themselves! Thanks for posting!
ReplyDeleteWe all have guns and stunguns. We have CPLs as well. I have had to use mine as well. Maybe it will get these cowards thinking. Scumbags who hurt others that are smaller than them need to be put in their place.
ReplyDeleteWe all have guns and stunguns. We have CPLs as well. I have had to use mine as well. Maybe it will get these cowards thinking. Scumbags who hurt others that are smaller than them need to be put in their place.
ReplyDeleteWhat's with the racist photo?! Only ehite women get raped, and only by black men? This photo just perpetuates a racist notion. Disgusting!
ReplyDeleteWhat's with the racist photo?! Only ehite women get raped, and only by black men? This photo just perpetuates a racist notion. Disgusting!
ReplyDeleteI would say you are just looking for issues. The pictures are not even the main focus of the article. And I would consider it racist to assume the race in general. The girl with the black hand over her mouth is, at best, racially ambiguous. She could be white, Latino, or even a light skinned black girl.
DeleteIf it had been a picture of two white people, you would have been calling it out as racist for being noninclusive.....
You are literally reading way more into something that is not even a main focal point in order to generate a problem.
*white
ReplyDeleteI think men can take a lot from this too and use it to make women feel more safe. For instance, avoid doing the things that would make a woman feel any kind of worry in the first place. If I'm out walking at anytime and there's a lone woman in front of me and no people around I will cross the road and distance myself from her. I used to be a self defense instructor and was told more than once that it was one of the most uncomfortable feelings for a lot of my students to have the possibility that someone was stalking them, and the relief they felt when the man behind them would turn off in another direction or simply cross the road to show their lack of intent. There's a lot of stuff written here that any decent man could use to help reduce that feeling, for a woman, of being under threat.
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