Thursday, September 4, 2014

Lemonade Ladies


We have formed a support group for women over 40.  Women Helping Women

We meet the 2nd and 4th Wednesday each month.

YOUNG KATHI

Past Picture of me when I was at Canton Lake

I am thinking I am about 7 or 8

Judy Puckett DeFelice found this on an old movie and took the picture and sent it to me.
Thank You Judy, I don't have any pictures of me growing up.  They were probably left in the attic at the home that I grew up in.  WIsh I could find them, I think t would jog my memory of my childhood.

Monday, August 11, 2014

Stand by Me from Methodist Hymnal 512.


When I was going thru the deaths of my parents I had a friend send me a song that helped me through those days.  "Bridge Over Troubled Waters" by Simon & Garfunkel.  I still cry when I hear those words of support....... (See Lyric's Below)
Your life is always changing and yesterday at church we sang #512 "Stand by Me"  I don't know why but I couldn't stop crying.  I just decided that it was the best song I had heard in a long time.  As I read the words now it soothes my soul.

1 When the storms of life are raging,
stand by me (stand by me);
when the storms of life are raging,
stand by me (stand by me).
When the world is tossing me
like a ship upon the sea,
thou who rulest wind and water,
Ssand by me (stand by me).
2 In the midst of tribulation,
stand by me (stand by me);
in the midst of tribulation,
stand by me (stand by me).
When the hosts of hell assail,
and my strength begins to fail,
thou who never lost a battle,
stand by me (stand by me).
3 In the midst of faults and failures,
stand by me (stand by me);
in the midst of faults and failures,
stand by me (stand by me).
When I do the best I can,
and my friends misunderstand,
thou who knowest all about me,
stand by me (stand by me).
4 In the midst of persecution,
stand by me (stand by me);
in the midst of persecution,
stand by me (stand by me).
When my foes in battle array
undertake to stop my way,
thou who sav├Ęd Paul and Silas,
stand by me (stand by me).
5 When I’m growing old and feeble,
stand by me (stand by me);
when I’m growing old and feeble,
stand by me (stand by me).
When my life becomes a burden,
and I’m nearing chilly Jordan,
O thou “Lily of the Valley,”
stand by me (stand by me).

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 "Bridge Over Troubled Waters" by Simon & Garfunkel.  
When you're weary, feeling small
When tears are in your eyes
I will dry them all
I'm on your side
Oh when times get rough
And friends just can't be found
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down
When you're down and out
When you're on the street
When evening falls so hard, I will comfort you
I'll take your part
Oh, when darkness comes
And pain is all around
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down
Sail on silver girl, sail on by
Your time has come to shine
All your dreams are on their way
See how they shine
Oh, if you need a friend
I'm sailing right behind
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will ease your mind
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will ease your mind

Monday, July 7, 2014

My Belief

When a new person crosses your path in life, listen to what they are saying to you. If it is something, you have never heard of before, research it. It may be an angel talking through your new friend to guide you to peaceful solutions.

Monday, June 23, 2014

12 Little Known Laws of Karma

THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE....

What is Karma? Karma is the Sanskrit word for action. It is equivalent to Newton’s law of ‘every action must have a reaction’. When we think, speak or act we initiate a force that will react accordingly. This returning force maybe modified, changed or suspended, but most people will not be able eradicate it.
This law of cause and effect is not punishment, but is wholly for the sake of education or learning.
A person may not escape the consequences of his actions, but he will suffer only if he himself has made the conditions ripe for his suffering. Ignorance of the law is no excuse whether the laws are man-made or universal.
To stop being afraid and to start being empowered in the worlds of karma and reincarnation, here is what you need to know about karmic laws.
1. THE GREAT LAW
- “As you sow, so shall you reap”. This is also known as the “Law of Cause and Effect”.
- Whatever we put out in the Universe is what comes back to us.
- If what we want is Happiness, Peace, Love, Friendship… Then we should BE Happy, Peaceful, Loving and a True Friend.
2. THE LAW OF CREATION
- Life doesn’t just HAPPEN, it requires our participation.
- We are one with the Universe, both inside and out.
- Whatever surrounds us gives us clues to our inner state.
- BE yourself, and surround yourself with what you want to have present in your Life.
3. THE LAW OF HUMILITY
- What you refuse to accept, will continue for you.
- If what we see is an enemy, or someone with a character trait that we find to be negative, then we ourselves are not focused on a higher level of existence.
4. THE LAW OF GROWTH
- “Wherever you go, there you are”.
- For us to GROW in Spirit, it is we who must change – and not the people, places or things around us.
- The only given we have in our lives is OURSELVES and that is the only factor we have control over.
- When we change who and what we are within our heart our life follows suit and changes too.
5. THE LAW OF RESPONSIBILITY
- Whenever there is something wrong in my life, there is something wrong in me.
- We mirror what surrounds us – and what surrounds us mirrors us; this is a Universal Truth.
- We must take responsibility what is in our life.
6.THE LAW OF CONNECTION
- Even if something we do seems inconsequential, it is very important that it gets done as everything in the Universe is connected.
- Each step leads to the next step, and so forth and so on.
- Someone must do the initial work to get a job done.
- Neither the first step nor the last are of greater significance,
- As they were both needed to accomplish the task.
- Past-Present-Future they are all connected…
7. THE LAW OF FOCUS
- You can not think of two things at the same time.
- When our focus is on Spiritual Values, it is impossible for us to have lower thoughts such as greed or anger.
8. THE LAW OF GIVING AND HOSPITALITY
- If you believe something to be true,then sometime in your life you will be called upon to demonstrate that particular truth.
- Here is where we put what we CLAIM that we have learned, into actual
9. PRACTICE. THE LAW OF HERE AND NOW
- Looking backward to examine what was, prevents us from being totally in the HERE AND NOW.
- Old thoughts, old patterns of behavior, old dreams…
- Prevent us from having new ones.
10. THE LAW OF CHANGE
- History repeats itself until we learn the lessons that we need to change our path.
11. THE LAW OF PATIENCE AND REWARD
- All Rewards require initial toil.
- Rewards of lasting value require patient and persistent toil.
- True joy follows doing what we’re suppose to be doing, and waiting for the reward to come in on its own time.
12. THE LAW OF SIGNIFICANCE AND INSPIRATION
- You get back from something whatever YOU have put into it.
- The true value of something is a direct result of the energy and intent that is put into it.
- Every personal contribution is also a contribution to the Whole.
- Lack luster contributions have no impact on the Whole, nor do they work to diminish it.
- Loving contributions bring life to, and inspire, the Whole.

My Miracle

Life is strange.  I have been apart from my husband for 3 1/2 years.  He had come home from India on Wednesday while I was at my Daughters in Fort Worth TX.



 I was taking care of the grandkids while my daughter was principal at Summer School.  It was a beautiful week.    My plans was to go to church with my grandbabies and then head back home.

On Saturday there was a birthday party at 2pm for a set of twins that was my daughter's best friend children.  I told my daughter that I didn't really care about going so I was going shopping.  It was 50% off at Belk and I got some really nice clothes.  I got a text from my daughter and said that the party didn't start till 3 pm.  I said OK I'll come over.

It was kids, blow up water slide, new puppies, and lots of food and fun.  I was sitting in the shade next to my daughter, then she went to play catch with her youngest.  I noticed this man came over and started playing catch with him.  Then next thing I knew he came over to me and I introduced myself.   He was the uncle to the birthday twins.  We talked and he was a really nice man.  Ice Cream and Cake was served and we talked again, he said that they were having a party tomorrow and I was welcome to come.  I told him that I was going to church with my family and then heading back home and it was a 5 hour drive.

The next morning at church my daughter and I went in and sit in her pew that she always sits in.  I had this tap on my shoulder and it was this man from the party.  My daughter had to help between services so she left a little early, when I got up to head out he meet me and we walked out together.  Having a very nice conversation again.   He went to go get his kids.  My grandsons father came to get the boy's so I was waiting on my daughter to finish her job.  Then I saw this man again with his 2 nieces.  I walked over and told him "Happy Father's Day" He said his kids were grown, I told him that's the best kind.  So the girls wanted a drink so he left and I went back to wait on my daughter.

I looked up and and they were going out the door.  There was a look between us, my daughter looked at him and then at me.

Now this probably doesn't sound like a miracle yet.  It really doesn't have anything to do with this man. It's the feeling that he gave me, the fantasy's that I haven't had for such a long time.  I feel that God did this to show me that there was someone out there that would treat me like a woman should be treated.  Not saying I wouldn't go out with the man.  I am so glad that I had my eyes open and made me feel like I am worth something, it had been three years and why did God decide to show me this miracle at this moment?

When I got back to the city, I meet my husband at VZD's for a sandwich, I got a little hug, we ate, he talked about him and he wanted to go to a movie.  I thought OK why not it's been months, since I had been to a real theatre.  We sit thru the movie and no touching.  It was very awkward.  He had brought a suitcase of my stuff back from India, so we went to his hotel room and I went thru the stuff.  He stood at the window and told me how he hated it here.  Talked about what he could do for money.  I asked if he had seen his mother yet.  He said "Why would I see her?"  This man hadn't changed at all.  I went to leave I had been driving for 3 hours and had 1 hour to go.  He walked me outside still talking about his life, apartment he was getting.  His business, he asked if he thought we could be business partners, I hesitated and he said "I will take that as a NO".  I drove off thinking about how he had not changed.  Still so self centered.  Just one question of how I had been or at least touched me.

I made plans for Bob to come up and get some stuff that I had extra that would help him sit up his apartment.  He walked in with his arms crossed and walked around my house and said "We had a lot of nice stuff".  My neighbor from across the street walked over to see if I was moving.   I introduced her to Bob.  He said HI and headed in the house.  After she left he said "I would HATE that, neighbors in your business."  He could never live in a small town.

I showed him the taxes that we owe and then told him I would like for him to sign the divorce papers.  He got mad, but not hostile and grabbed his pen and signed the papers and got in his truck and drove off.  I'm thinking that was easy.  I went in and sit on the couch and was kind of in awe, when he pulled up out front again.  I let him in, he gave me a hug and said that he would always love me and he knew it was hard on me too.  SUCH compassion.  Then he drove off again.

BACK to my miracle.  If God wouldn't have shown me that there is people out there that cared about me,  showed me that someone can be nice and pleasant.  I wouldn't have been strong enough to handle Bob.  No signs of love, oh ya he can say he loves me, but he knows that he has no control over me.  I think he was kind of upset that I had made it on my own.  I have a home, paying my bills and just being a very strong woman.

THANK YOU GOD, for showing me the path that I need to go down.  Baby steps.  I haven't been open to a relationship of any kind and GOD showed me that I can be a human again.

THANK YOU GOD for making me strong and caring about me.


Women make lemonade out of life's lemons

June 22, 2014

Women make lemonade out of life's lemons

By Megan Deaton, Staff WriterEnid News & Eagle
ENID, Okla. — When life gave some local women lemons, they made lemonade.

On the inviting wooden deck in the backyard of a suburban home in Enid, women gather to share their stories with cold glasses of the tart drink in hand.

This isn’t your average social get-together. This is Lemonade Ladies, a brand new group designed to help middle-aged or older women through issues like depression and emotional trauma.

After fighting her own battle with depression, Shelley Stutchman said she saw a need for a support group for women ages 40 to 75. With the help of two friends, Lemonade Ladies was born.

The group’s name came from Stutchman’s love of lemon pie, and now the women serve lemonade at every meeting.

“We didn’t really have any expectations,” Stutchman said. “It was an experiment to find out if women needed this — middle-aged to older women.”

Apparently, they did. Stutchman said a dozen women showed up to the first meeting in April, and the group’s success has reached people nationwide. Stutchman has received emails and phone calls from women far and wide, wanting to share their experiences.

Dena Patterson, one of the group’s three leaders or “Three Keys,” is a participant in the group, but she also has a background in therapy. She said the meetings allow women to form a support group that gives them stability.

“Often when people go through difficult or traumatic situations, they feel alone, and we want women to know they’re not alone,” Patterson said. “There is a safe place they can talk.”

Confidentiality is a vital part of the Lemonade Ladies meetings. Linda Pope, another “Key” who contributes her experience as a pastor to the group, said the confidential nature of the meetings is her favorite part.

“What I like is the trust level in the group right now,” Pope said. “The confidentiality and the trust level are high, and people feel they can share anything.”

With topics like broken hearts, rape and emotional abuse on the table, trust is essential. The women need a place to vent, but the purpose is to grow and strengthen one another, Pope said.

“We’re also really clear that we want to grow,” Pope said. “We’re not just getting together for a pity party.”

Pope also said the group is not meant to have a “man-hater” spirit. However, the women may feel more comfortable in the company of other women with the sensitive nature of topics discussed at the meetings, she said.

Stutchman said there might even be plans in the future to start a men’s group. She has received emails from several men who would also like a safe place for discussion.

The “Lemonade Ladies” have plans to expand in all directions. They have speakers lined up for meetings through September. With renowned public speaker Dave Ross coming to Wednesday’s meeting, the group will certainly need more room or another chapter soon.

Stutchman said they will soon put the lesson part of their meetings on YouTube for anyone to watch. Until then, the Lemonade Ladies will be working hard to give women the support they need.

“A lot of women at this age I think are embarrassed to admit they have these types of problems because they think they’re supposed to have it together,” Stutchman said. “But the fact is, there’s definitely a need for this kind of support.”

The Lemonade Ladies said any women from age 40 to 75 are welcome to come to a meeting. The group meets at 6:30 p.m. on the second and fourth Wednesday of every month at 2017 Windmill Ln.

For more information about meetings, call Stutchman at (580) 603-1372 or send an email to lemonadeladiesenid@gmail.com. Visit the group’s Facebook page at facebook.com/lemonadeladiesdreams.